How would you feel towards me if every time you asked me a sincere, but difficult question, I avoided giving you the very answer I knew you were seeking?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how much would you say you could trust me? Or, how honest would you say I was?
Those kinds of charades can be very infuriating for good reason.
On the flip side, how would you feel towards me if every time you asked me a sincere or difficult question, I tried to answer it as clearly and helpfully as I understood you wanted me to?
You’d probably think I was pretty cool.
Tough questions, and tough answers, aren’t for pansies. They require emotional effort and maturity. But they are at the heart of every great relationship.
“The mere act of vocalizing our answers to tough questions has a powerful effect on everyone involved.”